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-- Updated May 1, 2004 --

Welcome to!

    Welcome to™, a division of™. DearShrink is an Internet Mental Health Center hosted by Ron Sterling, M.D., a General and Geriatric Psychiatrist who also specializes in Adolescent and Family Therapy.

    Yes, Dr. Sterling has been called the "Dear Abby" of Internet psychiatry, but that doesn't make him just older and wiser; he is also caring and funny. The latest MateGuru answer to a reader question can be found further below. Just type to find us again, or bookmark us.

    We invite you to tour this page of partner and family advice and to explore the rest of the DearShrink site. DearShrink is filled with information, answers to questions, and rapid ways for obtaining services from Dr. Sterling in person, by phone, by Internet chat, or by e-mail. Click on the About Us button to get more details or call Dr. Sterling at 206-784-7842 to discuss his services.

    Other Advice destinations at DearShrink include:, where Dr. Sterling posts answers to questions about mental health, medications, psychiatry, and counseling;, where you can find links and answers to questions about dating and developing relationships as a single person;, for links and answers to questions about sex, sexuality, and sensuality; and, where Dr. Sterling provides information about senior mental health and caregiver concerns.

    To find out What is New at DearShrink, go to our What's New page. To get an index of pages available at DearShrink, go to our Site Index page.

    Thank you for stopping by!  Have a great day!

The Current MateGuru™ Question and Answer.

    Go to Angry in Arkansas to read the latest answer to a reader question about he and his wife's chronic anger.

The MateGuru™ Archives.

    To view archived MateGuru™ questions, answers, and links, indexed by subject matter, Click Here.

Psych Soapbox is Here!

    Go to Psych Soapbox to read Love Potion 2002 about the true meaning of love, according to Dr. Ron. This is the first article written for where Dr. Sterling posts opinion articles about matters related to psychiatry -- society, culture, manners, and mental health care.

Want Links to Valentine's Day Web Sites?

    We have archived the links to Valentine's Day and Anti-Valentine's Day Web sites that we posted in late January 2001 and in February 2002. To view those links, please go to our DateGuru Archives.

The Word "Mate."

    According to The American Heritage College Dictionary, a mate is a spouse, or a person with whom one is in close association -- a companion, a counterpart, a match, part of a pair. Feel free to write to Dr. Sterling about the wonders and challenges of committed relationships, parenting, and family life. Since very few of us are flawless at the mating game, including Dr. Sterling, the longing for perfecting our love and family life skills keeps us all pretty motivated to talk about it and learn as much as we can from each other.

Mating and Its Consequences.

    This is the Web site where Dr. Sterling posts answers to selected reader questions about partner, marital, parenting, or family matters. Please feel free to submit questions or comments to Dr. Sterling about family life. The identities of all readers will be kept strictly confidential and we will use our best efforts to insure that no information will be contained in any published question or answer that might disclose the identity of any reader or any person associated with the reader's question. Dr. Sterling is the only person authorized to read e-mail sent to For further information about your responsibilities when sending e-mail questions to Dr. Sterling and our Privacy Policy, click here.

Would You Like to Schedule an Appointment With Dr. Sterling?

  • Office Appointments are Available. Dr. Sterling has appointments available at his Bellevue office. Please go to the Services Offered page to read more about Dr. Sterling's psychiatry and counseling services or call Dr. Sterling at 206-784-7842.

Would You Like Online or Telephone Support and Counseling?

  • Online Relationship and Family Counseling. Dr. Sterling offers e-mail, Internet chat and telephone counseling for your relationship and family concerns and questions. Check the Online Help page to read more about Dr. Sterling's online and telephone services and how to purchase them.

  • Dr. Sterling Has 30 Years of Counseling Experience. Dr. Sterling has been around, but that doesn't make him just older and wiser. He has been married; he has been divorced. He has a 16 year-old daughter. He knows a lot about the highs and lows of married life and family matters and the relationship issues that can challenge us. His experiences and training give him a balanced perspective that could be called younger and more creative. Dr. Sterling is a caring healthcare provider and advisor who makes a strong commitment to his clients, and who has a sense of humor. For more information about Dr. Sterling, please go to his Biography Page.

Want Dating Advice?

    The DateGuru™ Web site is where Dr. Sterling posts links and answers to questions about dating and developing relationships as a single person.

Sex, Sexuality, and Sensuality Advice and Information.

    Check ErosGuru™, the Web site where Dr. Sterling posts links and answers to questions about sex, sexuality, and sensuality. If you are below 18 years of age, please do not visit ErosGuru™ without Parental Permission.

Seeking Answers to General Questions About Mental Health Care?

    Psych Answers is the Web site where Dr. Sterling posts links and answers to questions about mental health, medications, psychiatry and psychotherapy.

Want Advice About Senior Mental Health or Caregiver Support?

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Thank You for Stopping By!

    We invite you to come back to this page often for updated information, answers, and links. Have a great day!

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