Written by Ron Sterling, M.D. and Published in Northwest Prime Time Magazine
by Ron Sterling, M.D. -- November 2004
Normal grieving is a very complex and individual process. What may shock and hurt one person may not have the same meaning to the next person. Different members in the same family of the deceased can have widely varying reactions to the loss of that family member.
Normal grieving frequently produces episodic depression, listlessness, difficulty concentrating, loneliness, increased fears, social withdrawal, increased physical complaints and problems, increased irritability, low frustration tolerance, and sleep and appetite disturbances. Often, there are significant one-year anniversary reactions in which the grieving person experiences increased symptoms.
Because the symptoms of a complicated grief may be similar but only more intense or longer lasting, it is a challenge to decide when grieving has become unusual or problematic. In fact, we cannot even agree on terminology -- should unusual grieving be called "pathological," "traumatic," or "complicated?"
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Volume IV, does not currently contain any disorders specifically related to grieving. Since there is no official diagnostic category for complicated grieving, it is often classified as major depressive disorder (clinical depression), adjustment disorder (especially depressed and anxious mood, or disturbance of emotions and conduct), substance abuse, or posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
I use the terms "complicated" or "uncomplicated" to describe what is going on with a particular person. The term "pathological" is open to too much misinterpretation. All losses are "traumatic." It is important to note that there are degrees of complicated grief -- mild, moderate and severe.
Complicated grief is generally identified by a duration of symptoms longer than one month and more than 14 months after the loss. There is prolonged disruption of social functioning or avoidance of people, places, or activities that are reminders of the deceased. There may be withdrawal from work, friends, and recreation. There may be intrusive symptoms such as easy crying, and severe emotions related to losses (anger, bitterness, hostility). Return of symptoms from previous episodes of any mental illness or new symptoms of clinical depression or PTSD may indicate a complicated grief process.
The risk factors for complicated grief include death of spouse, child or parent; sudden, unexpected or untimely death; deaths by suicide; deaths by murder; vulnerable survivor (low self-esteem, low trust in others, previous mental illness, previous suicide attempts or threats, absent or unhelpful family); and, unresolved conflicts or emotional issues with the deceased.
If your father's symptoms fit the criteria for major depressive disorder, then Prozac may be helpful. Chronic stress related to his very traumatic and guilt-ridden reaction to his son's death can produce enough damage to hippocampus brain cells to produce clinical depression. However, whether Prozac or a trial of another antidepressant is helpful or not, I think it would be important for your father to seek counseling and work on issues related to his guilt about his son's death.
I hope this is helpful. For more information about complicated grieving, please visit www.AllAboutGrief.org. -- Best wishes, Dr. Ron.
Ron Sterling, M.D. is a 64 year-old General and Geriatric Psychiatrist with a private practice in Seattle. He invites you to e-mail him at with any questions about mental wellness or emotional, relationship, or aging concerns. He is the only person who reads e-mail sent to Dr. Ron. Please be assured that your questions and identities are completely confidential and protected. For more information about Dr. Ron and for resources related to senior mental health, please go to SeniorMentalHealth.org. Read our Disclaimer. If you wish to understand more about Dr. Sterling's potential biases in health care advocacy, please check his Conflicts of Interest Disclosure Statement
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